> 13 Months to Go

10 Oct

Earlier last week, an email arrive in my inbox:

According to The Knot, I have 188 to-do’s.  Normally I’m all about to-do lists, but I’m one of those people who puts things on my list that basically complete themselves.  But 188 things?  Yikes.

Let’s see what is falling under the 12+ month checklist.

  • Get organized! Start a notebook/file folder to house all your wedding-planning paperwork in one place, browse our Wedding Planning Basics area, and download The Knot Toolbar for easy access to all your online planning tools.
Okay, I’ve actually done a modified version of this.  I took one of DB’s leftover binders  and hole-punch from school, and I’ve been ripping out pictures of things I like.  I even took home borrowed dividers from the office to start organizing my pile of hole-punched papers.
  • Envision your wedding style and wedding colors — formal, eggplant-and-gold hotel reception? Or a modern, black-and-white loft? Colorful, tented, backyard barbecue celebration? Or exotic, orange-and-yellow beach wedding?
Colors.  Do you know how many people have asked me about my color scheme?  I have this big problem with envisioning our wedding…I don’t know what I want.  I only know what I don’t want.  I know I want it to be fancy.  I love fancy parties.  Does that count?
  • Decide on a wedding budget and hash out who’s contributing to the wedding. The Knot Hint: For a quick and easy way to determine your budget, use The Knot Wedding Budget Tool.
Let’s not even go there.
  • Protect your engagement ring! Make sure you have it appraised and insured.
HA! Luckily DB knows me and took care of this before even placing the ring on my finger.
  • Send out a just-engaged video Ecard and submit an engagement announcement to the local newspaper. You may also want to have your engagement photos taken in time for this.
I don’t think The Item is dying for our announcement.  There is already so much hard news to report in Millburn/Shot Hills including the MHS fencing team results, the school board elections and the potential opening of a Petco.
  • Choose a wedding date and time, and finalize after okaying with important guests (parents, siblings, and grandparents), ceremony and/or reception location, and ceremony officiant. Make sure your wedding date doesn’t fall on one of these days. ***
Hey, we’ve got that!  Venue, date and time? Check.  Officiant? Check.  More on him later.
  • Interview wedding coordinators (if you’ll have one) — look online and ask family and friends for local wedding coordinator recommendations.
Currently accepting volunteers…

  • Envision your wedding dress. (It’s never too early!) Begin by figuring out which wedding dress style will look best on you.
Again, we fall into the “what I don’t want” dilemma.  I called Kleinfelds just to get an idea on timing and they recommend 10-months before the wedding to say yes to the dress.  So I have some time there.  Which brings me to The Knot’s final “suggestion” with 13 months to go…
  • Get in wedding day shape by eating right, joining a gym, and/or even hiring a personal trainer.
Oh great.  You’ve noticed.  Don’t worry Knot editors, the 365 juice cleanse will begin shortly.
I can only imagine what will be on the next check list!  xoxo db2be

**  Below are the days The Knot does not think we should get married.

Holiday Weekends

Holiday weekend weddings have pros and cons. You’ve got an extra day for the festivities (and recovery!); plus, it’s easier to host a Sunday wedding, which is often less expensive than a Saturday one would be. However, costs of travel and hotels may be higher. Also, having a holiday wedding might adversely affect your wedding guest list. Some families have standing holiday weekend plans or traditions that they’d prefer not to disrupt.

Martin Luther King Jr. Day (always a Monday) 

Presidents’ Day (always a Monday) 

Memorial Day (always a Monday) 

Independence Day 

Labor Day (always a Monday) 

Columbus Day (always a Monday) 

Thanksgiving (always a Thursday) 

New Year’s Eve 

Religious and Cultural Holidays

Be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (your own and those of your guests) when planning your wedding. There may even be restrictions at your house of worship as to whether you’re allowed to marry at these times.

Palm Sunday 

Easter Sunday 


Tisha B’Av 

Rosh Hashanah

Yom Kippur




Costly Holidays

If you’re looking to marry around Valentine’s Day, be wary of your floral bill, especially if you’ve got your heart set on red roses — they’re likely to be more costly than at any other time of the year. Likewise, reception sites often charge a higher fee for a New Year’s Eve wedding.

Notable Holidays

April Fool’s Day If you and your fiance are jokesters at heart, this could be the perfect wedding day for you. If not, choose another day.

Mother’s Day (always a Sunday) 
Make sure your mom is okay with sharing this weekend with your wedding — but it could be the perfect opportunity to honor her. If you do choose it, make a toast to all the mothers in the room at your post-wedding brunch.

Father’s Day (always a Sunday) 
Ditto for Dad.

Avoid it if you’re terrified that someone might actually show up in costume. (If you love the idea of it, get our top Halloween wedding ideas!)

Days of Remembrance

Historically significant days may cause a conflict of interest for some guests.
September 11, Patriot Day: It falls on a Sunday in 2011 and on a Tuesday in 2012.
December 7, Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day: It falls on a and a Wednesday in 2011 and on a Friday in 2012.

Super Bowl Sunday

Final Four/March Madness


One Response to “> 13 Months to Go”

  1. jshafer October 10, 2011 at 9:27 am #

    Very thoughtful of them to suggest dates that may be conflicts for guests. Surprised this list did not include Flag Day (always a conflict for me). Very disrespectful of Betsy Ross. On the pro side, VE Day should be a given.

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